Dew, Come Again

I am not half as smart as I think I am, and I will not ever be as smart as I desire.

It was a hot Sunday morning. You could smell the love of God in the air. Believers from all walks of life put on their best SUnday clothes ready to worship the Almighty. People entered the church like something free was being given away. The pews were packed and the attitudes were humble. Praise the Lord.

Almost in nano speed the temple doors swung open. Heavy men with bags and guns filled the aisles. You could hear cries of confusion in the streets from within the church walls.

A gunmen standing near the only exits, let off 2 shoots and screamed for silence. "Anyone willing to die for your so called Savior, stay in your seats and you will"

It was like pandemonium. People stood and rushed for the doors. The gunmen stood aside in absolute calm and satisfaction as the pews cleared themselves out. Once the last straggler, who was obviously torn in making a decision on staying or going finally ran for her life. The gunmen removed their mask and disclosed their faces to the hand full of believers left along the sanctuary.

"Now that those fakers are gone, let's have church!"

Why do people take things so personally? I ask this question in third person. If someone is pointing out negative traits about you, why turn to them and say "well you stink too"?

I can only speak for myself when I say, I believe it is quite useless for someone to be around you and only give you good points about yourself. No adult needs to hear that. It creates a false impression. How can you truly care for me if you see me committing some utterly assanine act and you say nothing for fear that 'it wouldn't be nice'. Is it nice for you allow me to have this false impression?

We count on the people around us to point out those things we are not able to see. Once you point them out it is up to me how I will handle them but at least you have made me aware. Is that not the civil duty of anyone who claims to care for you.

I am being redundant.

Let's use an example:
Say you work with a close friend. His position is higher than yours and of course you do not expect special treatment of any kind, but you do expect some level of loyalty. A position opens up in a better department that you are qualified to bid for, but you found out about it too late. Later, you find out your friend has known about the position for two months now and has failed to mention it to you. It would not have been a conflict of interest in any way because the job was open market, there was nothing secretive about it. It was simply that you had not seen the notice. When you ask the friend about it they say 'I thought you knew.'

Can you consider that to be someone who has your best interest at heart?

Was that a superficial example? Let's try this:
You are having a very bad day and it is coming to a boil. Finally after hearing some rough news you break down. Tears begin to flow and they will not stop. You are more embarassed than you are upset. People begin to approach you in concern and ask if they can help. The only thing you want to do right now is get away from strangers and see a familiar face. It is public knowledge that one of your closest friends is a co-worker. A concerned co-worker tells your friend you are outside in tears and they do nothing. 2 hours later you have composed yourself and you are doing better and your friend is gone for the evening. Not a pat on the back, not a hand extended.

Maybe they had more important things on their mind?

Let's move away from the work place:

You are out with your dearest friend when an old classmate approches the two of you. You look at the classmate and say 'you certainly have gotten fat'. Your friend looks appaulled and your classmates looks horrified. The classmates keeps a straight face and creates an excuse to ease herself from your abuse. Your friend looks at you and says nothing. If this person is your friend should there be hesistance in calling out wrong actions. What you said to your classmate was completely tactless and such behavior should be pointed out.

Whether it is negative or positive is it a friend's or relatve's responsibility to point out your faults?

And those that do not do so, is it because they feel it would be pointless, which implies reluctance on the ego of the person who needs advice OR because the person giving the advice does not want to be held accountable for similar distaste

Don't piss on my leg and tell me it's rainning.